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Delayed Ejaculation

By Sarah Dale, MSc., RP When we think about men’s sexual difficulties, the first things that come to mind might be premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or low sexual desire.  But there’s another common sexual issue that is less discussed: delayed ejaculation.  Delayed ejaculation involves the infrequency or absence of ejaculation even with enjoyable sexual stimulation.  …

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Mindfulness for Sexual Pleasure

I recently wrote about men and low desire, and women and low desire, acknowledging that many people have desire difficulties. And that in fact, what is commonly seen as low desire is usually more accurately a case of responsive desire…desire that shows up part way through a sexual encounter, so long as a person is …

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Men and Low Sexual Desire

In my last blog post, I discussed the issue of women and low sexual desire, a topic that is commonly presented in various media articles and forums.  But what about men, do they ever have low sexual desire? According to the common stereotype, of course, the answer would be no.  We all know that men are supposed to …

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Women and Low Sexual Desire

As a sex therapist, one of the most common concerns I see is women who say that they have low desire. This is hardly surprising. Open any popular magazine or online media source and you’re likely to come across some mention of women and low sexual desire. But just what do women mean when they …

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When you can’t have sex

By Sarah Dale, MSc., RP What happens when you can’t have sex? Some women have difficulty with penetration, both sexual and non-sexual types of penetration, due to a condition commonly referred to as vaginismus. Vaginismus, (also known as pelvic floor dysfunction), may be include pain, worry about pain or other concerns and/or muscle tightening that …

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Sex and Shame

Many of the sex therapy clients I work with report feelings of shame in relation to sex. In some cases, the shame is linked to a religious upbringing. Although the message to wait until marriage for sex does not have to be a negative one, for many people this message is conveyed in a way …

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Anxiety and Sex

In my previous post, I discussed anxiety in general. In this post, I’ll discuss anxiety specifically in relation to sex. Anxiety and sexual dysfunction go hand in hand. Whatever the sexual difficulty (low desire, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, pelvic pain, or inability to orgasm) anxiety is usually involved to some degree. In some …

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Research on Provoked Vestibulodynia

I recently had the pleasure of attending the annual conference for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). This conference presents research and clinical practice updates on a variety of sexuality topics, including erectile dysfunction, low desire, and the impact of trauma on sexual relationships. There were a number of presentations about new research …

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